Monthly Archives: May 2011

Private Tour of AT&T Park

San Francisco Giants! MLB World Champs! We all love ’em. ESP Brian Wilson and that beard — thanks Just For Men for giving us all a laugh.

A few weeks ago I was lucky enough to take a private, behind-the-scenes tour of AT&T Park, the park that the Giants call home (obvi), with my dad and uncle for the Spinsters of San Francisco Father/Daughter Event. What fun! I tell you, this is why I love being in an organization like this.

Anyhoo, us gals gathered with our fathers (and uncle in my case) at Public House before we met our knowledgeable tour guide. He took us into the park, out to the field (no touching the grass!), and into the dugout for some key photo opps. Then we were off in to the bullpen, locker room, and clubhouse where some sneaky Spinnies dipped into the red licorice. Hey, you never know who’s hand has been there! Could be someone famous. Unfortunately groups are only permitted in the Visitors’ area, but I still had a great time “pretending” that I might run into Posey in the showers. Oops did I just say that out loud?

We learned a lot of fun facts along the way as we toured the various levels of the stadium. We got up to the Press Room to see where all of the [reporting] action happens and then into the San Francisco Giants’ Museum. Did you know there was one in AT&T Park? Well now ya do! It’s very expansive and would make any die-hard Giants fan’s heart smile.

We concluded the evening with a delicious dinner at Town’s End Restaurant. A fun evening was had by all! Kudos to the committee that put the event together.

Another fun fact: these tours are available almost everyday except for a few select dates and they are only $15 for adult admission. Pretty sweet, eh? Click here for more information and to find out how you can tour AT&T Park to see where all of the magic happens!

Check out my Flickr set for all of the photos.


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Museum Monday

Okay, so I didn’t really go to the museum on a Monday — I mean, who has the time with a 9 to 5 right?

I did, however, get to San Francisco’s Museum of Modern Art on a Sunday a few weeks back to check out the “How Wine Became Modern: Design + Wine 1976 to Now” Exhibit which closed on April 17th. This was a pretty awesome, modern exhibit and naturally the oenophile in me needed to see what it was all about.

Before we got to the main attraction, I met up with a friend and we perused the art on the first few floors. There was some modern art (as always), pieces by Frieda Kahlo, and there was also a really trippy Voyeurism exhibit. It was pretty graphic and not for the young, but this exhibit opened my eyes up to all of the violations that can take place when our photo is taken without our consent.

The famous "Flower Carrier" by Diego Rivera

We finally made it to the big kahuna – the How Wine Became Modern Exhibit. It was a wine lover’s dream and had great displays on The Judgment of Paris, the various types of stemware, decanters and the like, and a wine label exhibit (which was my personal favorite). Unfortunately my photos don’t do [art] justice, as the entire wall was grouped into clusters according to wine label. I don’t know about you all, but I always find wine label art fascinating and love comparing the modern/artistic vs. traditional/minimalist wine labels.

Kenwood Bottle with the famous "Starry Night" by Vincent Van Gogh

I’ve included some photos in this post but the remainder can be found in my Flickr set San Francisco Museum of Modern Art.

The next special exhibition due to hit SF MoMa is The Steins Collect: Matisse, Picasso, and the Parisian Avant-Garde which runs from May 21 to September 6, 2011. I recommend you go check it out! Maybe I will run into you while gazing at Femme au chapeau by Matisse (one of my favs!).



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The Google Stalk, FWB, Gchat and “The Break”

So I’m back checking in with more fun dating chronicles of the 21st century. I feel like I’m a pro at this. If you have any comments, questions or additions be sure to add them in!

The Google Stalk

I know we all do it. I’m guilty. And sneaky. And I have no conscious. I’m a very visual person, so I like to know what I’m working with and I like to see the good, the bad and the ugly. Well let’s hope there is no ugly but nobody is perfect. Sure one could be completely non-existent on the internet, but where is the fun in that? Hell I know that guys will Google me and see these posts, they might know my secrets. But chances are, I’ve probably already Google-ed you. Neener, neener!

FWB AKA Friends With Benefits

We’ve all got ’em (well not me, mom). The good old FWB. They are the one to tide you over during your dry spells, they give you the attention you need without being in a messy relationship. Alright that is all I will say about this topic because it is drifting in a dangerously unprofessional direction. As if any of this is professional at all.


Gchat AKA Google Chat is revolutionary. Well I guess not revolutionary because there is AIM, Yahoo chat, and Skype but I feel like everyone is on Gchat. It’s awesome because instead of having to send an email you just chat them up. When you’re dating it’s fun to check in, share the ups and downs of your day, and say “I’m so excited to see you tonight!!!!!”. Well actually, don’t do that because you might sound a little desperate. Anyway, if and when the relationship doesn’t workout, then you’re stuck seeing that person on your feed. And this also goes back to my previous point in regards to email – if you’re gchatting frequently it will most likely dwindle to nil. And that can be awkward when you see the person online and you’ve broken up or are no longer talking.

“The Break”

You think everything is going well. You have good conversation, spend time together, there’s no games — maybe you’ve even met the friends and/or the family. And then comes the dreaded “we need to talk”. Sometimes that is followed by “it’s not you, it’s me”. Other times it is followed by “I need a break”. Wait, what? You don’t get a break. That’s not allowed. This isn’t a game (at least at this point), there is no such thing as time-out. You should have thought about needing your space before you entered into this relationship contract. There is a clause that says: thou shalt not ask for a break. With all of that being said, sometimes breaks work for some people. I’m not trying to bash you if it works for you but it’s not for all of us.

Good luck out there and happy dating!


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The Dating Life Cycle

Dating in San Francisco. Is it truly more difficult here than any other city on earth? I think so. In another blog post I will go more into the nuances of dating in San Francisco, but for now I’m just gonna stick with the basic concept of dating. It has definitely evolved over the years and our pals Carrie, Miranda, Samantha, and Charlotte of Sex and The City are all well versed in the ups and downs.

There are a few different approaches. Some are the pursuer, some are pursuees, and some (perhaps the smartest) just have hands-off, relaxed approach. Don’t they say that when you’re not looking, that’s when someone will just fall in your lap? Well we aren’t all so fortunate to be blessed with the virtue of patience!

Here are a few interesting dating observations I’ve compiled based on real-life evidence of a twenty-something:

  • At the funeral (aka last time you are seeing the person you are dating) absolutely make sure you get all of your stuff back. When you were dating your schedules matched up so perfectly, but somehow once you have broken up there isn’t enough time in the day to exchange “the stuff” . Solution: mail the s***. Or just fuggedaboutit. And move on.
  • So you moved on and you’re on the prowl. Girls: the maximum party size is 2 when you are out at the bar. Your cohort is your wingwoman; treat her well. It’s difficult for guys to approach you when you are out with 10 gals. Or with men. Plus there is less competition this way (not that I think like that).
  • Where is a suitable place to meet someone? At the bar? I guess. At the park? Yeah, shows they are active and all into the outdoors. At a professional event? That works. Friends of friends don’t workout, trust me. There’s always that awkward phase when something doesn’t workout. I guess we don’t discriminate in San Francisco – we take ’em when we can get ’em.
  • Exchanging cards. Do or don’t? On one hand, you look professional. “Yeah, I gots a J-O-B”. But on the other hand, the ball is in their court. Which is something you want to avoid AT ALL COSTS. Solution: be sure to take the other party’s card. If you are interested, of course!
  • OR — exchanging numbers. That says booty call all over it, so get right to the point.
  • So you have a card in your hand (or a number in your iPhone), what is the right amount of time to wait to email? Do you wait 3 days to make contact? And, once that email has come that makes your heart flutter (“OMG he’s into me, I’m into him, he emailed me, YAY!”). How long do you sit on it? If you met him/her last night and they’ve already emailed you, clearly they are interested so you can email on the same day. However, if he was too busy aka playin’ the game and decided to wait the standard (?) 3 days, you should definitely hold out on emailing back that same day. At least you know where you stand.
  • Once you’ve established some email contact, what is the standard frequency? If you email all day, that says “I’m so into you, that I’m willing to forsake all others (and my job) to talk to you”. Say you are emailing all day and its all witty banter and s*** — well I hate to break it to you, but that’s the climax. It just all goes downhill from there, because you cannot possibly sustain emailing 10 times in one day. Truth. I say wait a few hours (or maybe days) and then respond. Be sure to keep up that witty banter – it shows that you are interesting even if you aren’t actually interesting at all. Email is good too because you can think before you respond. As opposed to having to come up with something funny to say on the spot.
  • The Date. aka The Meet Up (for all you commitment-phobes out there). Okay so the anticipation is building again, we’re back climbing the peak. How soon do you see each other again? I’m an instant gratification kinda gal, so I’d say set something up in the same week. BUT (and this is a huge BUT) you risk seeming too available. So keep livin’ your life, hang with the girlfriends and meet other guys. Make plans for the next week.
  • When you do make plans, where do you go? Okay drinks are cool, again that is non-committal. If you go for the all out dinner-date, that’s a big step. A BIG step for all parties involved (aka you and this mysterious fellow) because you are stuck with this person for 2+ hours having dinner (see side notes below). In this case make sure you have an SOS escape plan for if the date takes a nosedive. Get some spinach between your teeth – I’m sure he’ll want to plant a big one on you then.
  • Does he look as good in daylight as he did at night aka after you have taken your vodka/wine/beer goggles off? If so, fairplay. If not, game over.
  • So you had the first date and you held out – kudos to you! Do you make plans for a second date on that night or wait for follow up? People, people — this is pretty much like a job interview so if you don’t follow up, it shows you’re not interested in the position. And in this case I mean position in your life. Or in your bed. Or whatever you fancy. Also, is it kosher to text that night to “say you had a good time”. Or can you do that the next day? AM or PM? Hmm…I guess that would depends on how much you actually enjoyed the date.
  • You’ve had a few dates, things are going well. Good for you! You’re jumping hurdles left and right. But here’s the thing about relationships: they can go either 1 of 2 ways. 1) You fall in love, get married, have kids, grow old — you know, the fairytale. 2) You break up. And this is what happens 99% of the time. It’s inevitable, but you know what? It’s like a sport: it gets easier and easier the more you practice.
  • Titles: how do these come about? When does The Guy I Met Last Night become The Guy I’m Seeing and then The Guy I’m Dating to My Boyfriend. That’s a doozy. I guess its probably better to have the conversation than assume he’s your new BF. Because you know what they say: when you assume, you make an -ass- out of -u- and -me-. In this case you will be the ass embarrassed if you introduce him to your friends as such and he says “I’m not quite sure I’m ready for that”. Relationship FAIL.
  • We’re coming full relationship cycle right now and I hope you a ready for it: The Break Up. If it’s done via text message or email – that is not respectful. If that’s his form of break up, he doesn’t deserve you in his life. A phone call is a bit easier, it softens the blow. Sometimes it’s mutual so it’s easier done in person. This is only for the most professional of daters because they are not scared of flying objects. But here is the ultimate worst way to break up: The Ignore. It’s like, c’mon I know you didn’t fall of the face of the planet and die – well at least I hope you didn’t. When did ignoring someone become a way to break up? It’s like they are thinking “If I just ignore this problem it will just go away”. No dude, this problem will not go away. In fact, it’s bound to just get worst. The best way to break up? Just rip the band aid off the wound quickly. It will scab up eventually and heal (am I grossing you out yet?) and then you meet someone amazing [for the time being]. Things just didn’t work out and you are finally free to go explore the land of singledom, fully armed with knowledge of what you want/don’t want in a relationship. CONGRATULATIONS!

Other random tidbits:

  • The Facebook friend-ing: Do or Don’t? I say don’t. Just keep it so that the other person can still admire you from afar, but not question who is writing on your wall. You will also avoid the whole we’re-not-dating-anymore-so-now-I-need-to-defriend-him. And if you keep the “friend” status after “breaking up” a) you are lying to the world and b) you have to see when they start dating someone else
  • Sometimes hot guys are just fun to look at. And that is all.
  • I don’t know about you all, but this is San Francisco. Where he takes you to dinner says a lot about the person. So listen up: Cotogna? WELL DONE. If he got a reservation there, he’s a winner. If he is a local at a nice restaurant or bar and the staff know his name, points for that too. However if he takes you Olive Garden, LEAVE IMMEDIATELY. Commercials are misleading.
  • Doing an activity together is fun – it takes away from having to act like you are paying attention and interested in that the other person is saying. Things that get you out of your comfort zone like dancing, hiking, skydiving, swimming with sharks and playing tricks with tigers are all acceptable forms of activity.
  • When talking to friends about the multiple men you are juggling, make up nicknames. It’s fun, you can laugh about it, and you can trade stories. “So how was last night with Mr. X?” “What’s up with CFO dude?” “You did WHAT with Hipster Bartender?!”
  • Unless you are really sure something is going to work out, don’t tell your Mom/Dad/Aunt/Uncle/Gramma, for obvious reasons. It’s hard to say to your aging grandmother “No, I’m not seeing him anymore. No, you still have to wait a while to see your first great-grandchild”. Awkward.
  • The old “It’s not you, i’ts me” — this is bull***. George said it best.

That’s all [for now] folks, but I will be sure to check in with more fun dating chronicles.

Until next time, xo.

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