Monthly Archives: January 2011

Desperation isn’t pretty

We all have our guilty pleasures. One of mine (and countless others out there) is The Bachelor. I mean, who doesn’t love watching 50 oft times intelligent, no doubt beautiful girls duke it out for a handsome stud? And Brad Womack…while there is much controversy and rumors surrounding this highly sought after gentleman, we all want to tune in to see if he really has changed like he proclaims. Hey — if a man can admit to 3 years of therapy, there’s gotta be hope out there for us all, right? (Note to those who do not tune in: He dumped both DeAnna Pappas and Jenni Croft in a previous season due to “abandonment issues and fear of commitment”.)

Reality television is entertaining. I will be the first to admit that I enjoy watching all of these women battle over one man — providing that I would never partake. There are the normal, sweet girls (Emily), the odd (Madison), and the downright crazies (MicHELLe).

One thing that I’ve noticed is that desperation is an ugly look. Women like Ashley H. and Chantal give all of us a bad name. Once they see that Brad has been going on dates with other girls, they completely freak out. Whatever happened to being confident in oneself? I am guilty of feeling insecure (as I’m sure a lot of us are), but seeing other women compete with each other over a man’s heart like this really puts it in perspective. I can see that this show teases it out and magnifies the self-confidence these women are seriously lacking. Maybe it is a desire for Bachelor Brad to “fix” and “comfort” these women who are clearly in need. I mean — he did eliminate two women who, after the fact, proudly proclaimed “Too bad, he’s missing out!” And c’mon, who finds true love on reality t.v. As long as the girls don’t show their crazy side (a la Michelle), there is no doubt in my mind that they will go on to find happy, healthy, NORMAL relationships. Also, although men do feel the need to be a knight in shining armor, this is the 21st century we are living in.

I suppose my take-home message is this: Ladies, men can smell a desperate woman from a mile away. So be strong. Be confident. And most of all, be yourself. Someone who is really into you will admire you for all of those wonderful qualities you have to offer.

One thing I suggest is to repeat positive affirmations when these negative thoughts begin creeping into your mind.

What are some ways that you cast away these negative thoughts?

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Museums on MLK Jr Day

Well, well, well, I hope if you were lucky enough to have a three-day weekend that you enjoyed that extra day! Thank you, Martin Luther King, Jr. Hopefully you were able to take advantage of the long weekend AND remembered to pay tribute to the leader of the civil rights movement.

I awoke Monday morning to the sound of fog horns, natch. Any wonder why flights were delayed at SFO? Anywhoo, I digress…so I woke up to those darn fog horns, thinking “This day must not be waste”. I consulted one of my go-to websites, Funcheap’s San Francisco City Guide. Hint: the website has great recommendations for things to do in this grand city of ours.  I saw that the Museum of African Diaspora and the Contemporary Jewish Museum were both offering free admission in honor of the holiday, so I decided to check those out. Also, I’ve been wanting to try the Vietnamese Bahn Mi at Spice Kit so I decided to make a day of it!

I started with a walk to Spice Kit — hey, need to burn those calories! I ordered a Roasted Pork Bahn Mi with an extra spread of housemade pate, a Vienamese iced coffee, and a side of Lotus chips. Yum! The chips were perfectly salty and crunchy and the sandwich was divine! I loved the extra kick of the jalepenos.

Then it was off to the Museum of African Diaspora. They had some educational films running and sidewalk chalk art goin’ on. I read some neat stuff about tribal masks and their uses, but didn’t stay long.

After the MoAD, I mosey-ed on over to the Contemporary Jewish Museum. Wow, what a building! The architecture was great. It was the historic Jessie Street PG&E Power substation which played a large part in restoring energy to the city after the 1906 earthquake.

Naturally, my first stop was the Curious George exhibit. It chronicled the plight of Curious George creators, Margaret and H.A. Rey. See my photo below? If it looks a little blurry, it’s because there was a gentleman over my right shoulder telling me to put my camera away! It was also interesting to see the reclaimed artwork of Jacques Goudstikker and the exhibit called The Torah Project.

After my excursions, it was time for a peaceful, mind-clearing walk home along the Embarcadero!

What are some fun things you do on a day all to yourself?

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2010 in review

The stats helper monkeys at mulled over how this blog did in 2010, and here’s a high level summary of its overall blog health:

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The Blog-Health-o-Meter™ reads Fresher than ever.

Crunchy numbers

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A Boeing 747-400 passenger jet can hold 416 passengers. This blog was viewed about 2,600 times in 2010. That’s about 6 full 747s.


In 2010, there were 54 new posts, not bad for the first year! There were 188 pictures uploaded, taking up a total of 227mb. That’s about 4 pictures per week.

The busiest day of the year was May 26th with 70 views. The most popular post that day was Once upon a time….

Where did they come from?

The top referring sites in 2010 were,,,, and

Some visitors came searching, mostly for grey’s anatomy season 7, safe ride home +thanksgiving weekend +sacramento, grey’s anatomy season 1, freshguide + event + saks, and luxor berg and associates halloween.

Attractions in 2010

These are the posts and pages that got the most views in 2010.


Once upon a time… May 2010


About April 2010


Momma’s Day May 2010


Family in da House May 2010
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Fotografías May 2010

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